Unexpected Wisdom
If you have ever traveled across country by train, you know that meals are served with community seating. That means you can meet new people with every meal. In late March I took the train home (to Southern California) from an engagement in
Massachusetts. One evening my meal companions consisted of a very nice couple
and a teenager. At first, the teenager had little to say. (Parents, does this sound
familiar?) But through my questions he told us that he was 16, wanted to be an
attorney, and could bench press 325 pounds. Then I asked him, "What three recommendations would you give to someone in 8th
grade about high school?" Without hesitation he gave an answer that all of us can
use. Here are his recommendations, with my comments on how they apply to
leaders: 1) Watch who you hang out with. Certainly, your friends define who you are. Leaders know this and thus build organizations that consist of people who reinforce
productive work, discourage destructive behavior, and provide a variety of
complementary skills. A wise leader will direct a person's development by placing the person with
colleagues who have beneficial characteristics. Similarly, this explains why some
leaders work with a coach who provides a contrast to their preferred style. You can also manage your personal growth by associating with people who have
achieved what you aspire to have. For example, one entrepreneur left a mastermind
group of millionaires to join a group of multimillionaires. 2) The next four years are very important. Actually, every "next four years" will have a significant impact on you. Your actions
and decisions during that time will determine everything that follows. And the key
to making the most of time is having a vision, setting goals, and making plans. Most leaders work with a business plan. And some have a business plan for their
career and other important aspects of their life. 3) It can be a lot of fun. Yes, the next four years and the rest of your life can be a lot of fun. If you choose to
make it so. My train ride serves as an excellent example of this. When I bought my train ticket I decided that I was going to enjoy the ride. And I can
report that I had a ball. In fact, I told everyone that I met on the train that I was the
happiest guy on the train. Now, let's be realistic about this. A train offers some challenges. For example, the
train rocks from side to side as it rattles along over old track, switches, and rail
crossings. The train blows a whistle, which you can hear all day (and night) long.
The train provides limited space. I spent the first night in coach, curled up on my
seat and the suitcases that I stacked on the floor between my seat and the one in
front. My sleeper (for the next two nights) consisted of a 3.25 feet wide, 7 ft. long,
6.5 ft high space. And yet I was the happiest guy on the train. Because I decided to enjoy the ride. Similarly, we can enjoy our ride through life if we decide to enjoy it. IAF Certified Professional Facilitator and author Steve Kaye works with leaders who
want to hold effective meeting. His innovative workshops have informed and
inspired people nationwide. His facilitation produces results that people will
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